We The People…

We the People – my favorite talk show that comes on NDTV hosted by Barkha Dutt.

Today’s topic was Marriages & India.- Discussion on the right age to get married, Ideal partner and other social issues related.

Last segment – The right to choose the partner: Boy, girl or the families
With a few arguments between the older audiences and the younger ones, in between the crowd, a 24 yr old girl comes up really strong. She spoke for like 20 mins and no debate on what she said.

Wht she said –

• In this male dominated society all over the world. The men behaving like Bush when it comes to marriage. If a girl rejects a man she has no brains, but if a boy rejects a girl something’s wrong with the girl. (No statement’s from the audience)
  
• Every man wants his wife to be Aiswarya Rai hot and sexy – if a girl want some1 like John Abraham or Salman Khan – shez said you don’t go by the looks of a man.

Will a decent looking man though not very handsome marry an ugly fat girl – not a single guy agreed in an audience of 80 people. But a girl is married to a man of his father’s age and reason – that’s ohk. He has every thing.

What does a man see before getting married –
Looks (very very imp), then her nature, her job and how much she earns, how well she will take care of his family ( an unpaid 24 hr maid who can be at his service) and then may be for name sake, her family n stuff.

What does a girl see before getting married –
The nature of the guy and the way he treats her, they way his family wud accept her,his social culture, financial security, and then his looks.

The point to state the above is because – it’s the woman

• who leaves her home, her parents and her life for a new start.
• She is in new family with new people and new surroundings.
• She is loaded with more social responsibilities – shez now a wife, a bahu, a bhabhi, chachi, mami and wht not

To what extend a man’s life change after marriage other than a new member in the family, sharing the room & the bed, and a very little responsibility to keep her wife happy till she settles in the new surroundings. After that husbands don’t bother. Have u heard wives making fun of their husbands but husbands always do. “every man finds his neighbour’s wife better than his”.

He stills wakes up late on a Sunday, first his mom used to wake him and now his wife does. Wife has more work to do on a Sunday than a weekday. He still gets food and tea ready, right in his hands whenever he ask’s for. He still doesn’t miss his cricket and football matches and parties and lots more…

Comparing to the man, does a girl’s life remain the same after marriage. She now has a family of her own not forgetting the one from where she came. So why not leave the choice with the girl – whom she wants to spend her life with and which family she wants to be a part of. Not because she gives in so much but for the reason that what she has been giving in so far, she wud do it with joy and from her heart and not for the sake of fulfilling her responsibilities.

The girl stops talking and an audience with complete silence just applauded. When she asked if any one wud like to put a word to her there was no one who disagreed with her.

But the most surprising thing was with a majority of 72% of male audience not a single man thought what she said was wrong or unjust.

Now my point to write this whole ramanyan – Men know where they stand but they are the last one to stand by a woman. A mother, a sister, a girlfriend, a wife and a daughter. Man cant do without women but yet they fail to respect her.
I’m really lucky and feel blessed that all the men in my life have stood by me. Not for once I felt I was treated different form a guy. (Except.… I’m not allowed late night parties that often and I’m refused drinks by all my boyfriends). Hehehe hahaha.