After reading - A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
Mindfullness is simply bringing our awareness into the present moment, noticing what is happening right NOW!!! All we have is this very moment. The past is in the past. The future will always remain in future, because once it arrives it becomes present. The future becomes the "NOW". All we can know for certain is what is happening right now. The freedom from worries of what might or might not happen is in the present moment. Relief from the regrets of the past is in the present moment. Peace comes from letting go of the past and the future, learning from our experiences and accepting who we are right now.
Through my own personal life experience, I've come to realize how challenging it is to stay in the present moment when what we desire always seems to be in the next step. We become so consumed with the next step that we miss out on what is happening right now. It is easy to get caught up in what isn't working and what isn't happening. If we continue to past or the future, we are missing out on life, because life is happening right NOW!!!
For some of us, focussing on the past or future is a way of avoiding the present. By focusing on the future we can avoid any pain, anxiety and loss we are feeling in this moment. But avoiding those feelings won't make them go away; infact it will eventually negatively impact our health.
Practising the 3 A's
1. Awarness - noticing our thoughts and checking how we feel and getting a sense how those feelings show up in our physical body
2. Acceptance - Acceptance is such an important thing and its the most important wich most of us skip it. They end up holding negative emotions like anger and guilt in the physical body. Then they turn into self judgement and the self defeating cycle continues...
3. Action - Sometimes acceptance is the Action. There will be times that the process of making peace with our thoughts and feelings is enough to soften the negative emotions. Other times we will need to take action. It is important to choose the action steps that work best for us.
We can begin practising mindfullness using everyday tasks such as eating, walking, listening, working etc. When we focus on what we are doing, seeing, smelling, hearing, tasting or feeling, we are being mindful
Ask ourselves frequently throught out the day "what is happening right now". Noticing everything around us and begin looking around the world as if we were looking at the world for the very first time..Looking closely, listening intently, and allowing all our senses to guide us to explore the world in every moment.Savouring all the details and cherishing each moment sd it arrives. For each moment is a "present". It is a Gift!
As we receieve the gift or present moment we will be able to find peace, a deep sense of peace that will help us guide through our journey. We have the ability to transform our expereince of life and life is occuring now!!!
Dec 8, 2009
Apr 23, 2009
All you need is a Good Companionship!!!!
Let me take the most common of the Wedding Vows – “To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part” – Honestly how many of us actually practice it in real life. Be it the Man or the Wife – you always land up saying – “You don’t understand me”.
Just like rest of the zillions of people in the world, neither do I know what works for me & what doesn’t... nor do I know what I would like and I wouldn’t like because it depends from person to person and situation to situation I would be with.
As per for me, I am different with different people, sometimes I am so predictable while there are times when you will fail to figure me out. I do live different lives - I am different when I am home, with my close ones, I differ as a person with my different sets of friends, you would refuse that you hv known me if you catch me at work. There are only a handful of people who have seen me in all the different shades of my personality, so much to say that even my parents and some of my bestest friends will be taken by surprise at some point.
This brings me to the point how people have perceived me – just to mention a few - some people thought I was – “Arrogant, proudy, bold, bitchy, full of Attitude, Strict and the best one my manager told me “NO NONSENSE PERSON” to the other side – Shy, hesitant, introvert, Calm, Respecting” when they met me for the first time, which does not make me either good nor bad.
My Companion, My partner - I want to be with someone where I can be myself where I'm my mum n dad’s girl, didi to my younger ones. I come with all my beliefs, value system and relationships and would want to add his to mine in my pot filled with loving people.
I want to be corrected when I am wrong, I don’t know everything, I’m not perfect. But; tell me “this is a better option, it’s done this way” and not shouting “don’t u know such a simple thing, I’m telling you its a bad idea/choice/option”. I can deal with hot and short tempered, highly impatient person but not some who has violent streak in his anger and throws things around and has no control over his anger.
Where we have conversations from stupidest stuff to being able to share deep down heart secrets and feel at comfort sharing those moments, where you don’t have to worry about being judged on your every action – it’s only then you can be yourself, mutually being able to share what certain things and people mean to you and being able to respect that. Talks to me about his friends and family, even work; so what if I don’t understand a shit of what he is talking about, the girls he has liked, LOVED and hated.
He who knows to live life in small moments that we share every day, has kindness, want to help people where he can, volunteer for needy, can share his happiness and richness, stay humble irrespective of his status and success, respecting elders, who wants to stay with his parents and siblings and have a family. If given a chance at some point I want to adopt a child, and can be supportive of a selfless act like that. Who want to have kids not because you have to have kids but want to enjoy parenthood, want to have a daughter so that he can have his “Daddy’s princess” and a son where he can cheer him in his game and be a proud dad saying "That's my boy".
Fights happen everywhere, disagreements are there. I want to have disagreements, want to fight prolly for something as mere as the remote control and TV shows, where both of us want to win while we are selecting something like dishes, furniture, blinds, curtains, kitchen appliances, wall color – why not??? This is life!!!! Fight, disagree with each other for protecting one another’s family, near and dear ones, go out walking hands in hands, share ice creams - rather in my way, “Let me try yours” and give urs to him, go cycling, short run, beating one another to the door – In doing all these whoever wins, I’m sure makes both of them happy. Doing such things does make you look stupid, BUT it’s COMPANIONSHIP, a strong Partnership!!!
One who enjoys backpack traveling, goin to zoo’s – looking at the monkey’s and chimpanzee’s trying to match each others face, long drives with windows, sunroof open and not worrying about the car and the gas just enjoying the view with the music and a comfortable silence between us, who makes faces while I pick up candles and agarbatti’s and then smile later on. Likes to sit by the window, enjoys a cup of tea, moves around the house while I am doing up things, goes mad when I want to keep the house clean, splash, sprinkle water while doing dishes, has strong taste buds and flair for food, can enjoy eating pani puri on a street cart without worrying if its hygienic or not but instead agreeing that it would give some immunity to the body, Pillow fights, running around the house. Who says only kids can do that????
When you are upset, stressed, tensed, gives you space to be by yourself. Help each other grow and succeed. Be the light at the end of the tunnel for one another when you losing hope; build up the faith for one another by letting them know that you are going to be there for them. Life is not a bed of roses but you protect each other from the thorns that are lying, if you are hurt help you recover, help you believe in yourself.
All this seems to be a long list, very novelish, filmi for some people but it’s not. These are the small moments of life and there is nothing unreal or something that can’t happen. You just need that other person who believes in all these things equally and understand what such moments mean and represent. No wonder its said that “A good friend will be a good partner but a good partner need not be a good friend”.. May be you might not “LOVE” the person, or may be your partner might not “LOVE” you but you like each other as companions – that is important, you are comfortable being with that person and can be yourself that is what that matters at the end. I call it a TRUE GOOD COMPANIONSHIP
You don’t need lots of money, lavish lifestyle and materialistic luxuries to have a good time; you just need one good companion – its not where we are but with whom we are that makes the difference!!!!
Just like rest of the zillions of people in the world, neither do I know what works for me & what doesn’t... nor do I know what I would like and I wouldn’t like because it depends from person to person and situation to situation I would be with.
As per for me, I am different with different people, sometimes I am so predictable while there are times when you will fail to figure me out. I do live different lives - I am different when I am home, with my close ones, I differ as a person with my different sets of friends, you would refuse that you hv known me if you catch me at work. There are only a handful of people who have seen me in all the different shades of my personality, so much to say that even my parents and some of my bestest friends will be taken by surprise at some point.
This brings me to the point how people have perceived me – just to mention a few - some people thought I was – “Arrogant, proudy, bold, bitchy, full of Attitude, Strict and the best one my manager told me “NO NONSENSE PERSON” to the other side – Shy, hesitant, introvert, Calm, Respecting” when they met me for the first time, which does not make me either good nor bad.
My Companion, My partner - I want to be with someone where I can be myself where I'm my mum n dad’s girl, didi to my younger ones. I come with all my beliefs, value system and relationships and would want to add his to mine in my pot filled with loving people.
I want to be corrected when I am wrong, I don’t know everything, I’m not perfect. But; tell me “this is a better option, it’s done this way” and not shouting “don’t u know such a simple thing, I’m telling you its a bad idea/choice/option”. I can deal with hot and short tempered, highly impatient person but not some who has violent streak in his anger and throws things around and has no control over his anger.
Where we have conversations from stupidest stuff to being able to share deep down heart secrets and feel at comfort sharing those moments, where you don’t have to worry about being judged on your every action – it’s only then you can be yourself, mutually being able to share what certain things and people mean to you and being able to respect that. Talks to me about his friends and family, even work; so what if I don’t understand a shit of what he is talking about, the girls he has liked, LOVED and hated.
He who knows to live life in small moments that we share every day, has kindness, want to help people where he can, volunteer for needy, can share his happiness and richness, stay humble irrespective of his status and success, respecting elders, who wants to stay with his parents and siblings and have a family. If given a chance at some point I want to adopt a child, and can be supportive of a selfless act like that. Who want to have kids not because you have to have kids but want to enjoy parenthood, want to have a daughter so that he can have his “Daddy’s princess” and a son where he can cheer him in his game and be a proud dad saying "That's my boy".
Fights happen everywhere, disagreements are there. I want to have disagreements, want to fight prolly for something as mere as the remote control and TV shows, where both of us want to win while we are selecting something like dishes, furniture, blinds, curtains, kitchen appliances, wall color – why not??? This is life!!!! Fight, disagree with each other for protecting one another’s family, near and dear ones, go out walking hands in hands, share ice creams - rather in my way, “Let me try yours” and give urs to him, go cycling, short run, beating one another to the door – In doing all these whoever wins, I’m sure makes both of them happy. Doing such things does make you look stupid, BUT it’s COMPANIONSHIP, a strong Partnership!!!
One who enjoys backpack traveling, goin to zoo’s – looking at the monkey’s and chimpanzee’s trying to match each others face, long drives with windows, sunroof open and not worrying about the car and the gas just enjoying the view with the music and a comfortable silence between us, who makes faces while I pick up candles and agarbatti’s and then smile later on. Likes to sit by the window, enjoys a cup of tea, moves around the house while I am doing up things, goes mad when I want to keep the house clean, splash, sprinkle water while doing dishes, has strong taste buds and flair for food, can enjoy eating pani puri on a street cart without worrying if its hygienic or not but instead agreeing that it would give some immunity to the body, Pillow fights, running around the house. Who says only kids can do that????
When you are upset, stressed, tensed, gives you space to be by yourself. Help each other grow and succeed. Be the light at the end of the tunnel for one another when you losing hope; build up the faith for one another by letting them know that you are going to be there for them. Life is not a bed of roses but you protect each other from the thorns that are lying, if you are hurt help you recover, help you believe in yourself.
All this seems to be a long list, very novelish, filmi for some people but it’s not. These are the small moments of life and there is nothing unreal or something that can’t happen. You just need that other person who believes in all these things equally and understand what such moments mean and represent. No wonder its said that “A good friend will be a good partner but a good partner need not be a good friend”.. May be you might not “LOVE” the person, or may be your partner might not “LOVE” you but you like each other as companions – that is important, you are comfortable being with that person and can be yourself that is what that matters at the end. I call it a TRUE GOOD COMPANIONSHIP
You don’t need lots of money, lavish lifestyle and materialistic luxuries to have a good time; you just need one good companion – its not where we are but with whom we are that makes the difference!!!!
Jan 30, 2009
About a man.....
What happens to a man when
He spills his heart on a page... and
He watches words flow away then
His feelings lie on the page alone
There waiting
For someone who cares to read them
To open their eyes to see them
To see if they can make his thoughts their own
What happens to a soul when
It's trapped inside his emotions
And all of these words he's spoken
They bind him to the life he's left behind
And every new step he takes
He knows that he might not make it
To all of these dreams that he has yet to find
Maybe your life's not perfect
But maybe it's not worth what he gives away
You can see that this broken soul is bleeding
So you can see your feelings inside yourself
And wander through my heart
Letting you see through me
Now only consumes me
Forget your pain and watch me fall apart
You can see that this broken soul is bleeding
So you can see your feelings inside yourself
And wander through my heart
Yipee!!!! This is my first post of 2009.....
After series of events that happened since August 2008, I was feeling that I never be able to write again in my life... Unexpected, undesired things kept happening and got completely trapped in my life that i was badly looking for freedom, freedom of thoughts, words and time. I'm glad I managed to get out from the trap and back :D
Lots more to come.... every one shud keeping smiling
He spills his heart on a page... and
He watches words flow away then
His feelings lie on the page alone
There waiting
For someone who cares to read them
To open their eyes to see them
To see if they can make his thoughts their own
What happens to a soul when
It's trapped inside his emotions
And all of these words he's spoken
They bind him to the life he's left behind
And every new step he takes
He knows that he might not make it
To all of these dreams that he has yet to find
Maybe your life's not perfect
But maybe it's not worth what he gives away
You can see that this broken soul is bleeding
So you can see your feelings inside yourself
And wander through my heart
Letting you see through me
Now only consumes me
Forget your pain and watch me fall apart
You can see that this broken soul is bleeding
So you can see your feelings inside yourself
And wander through my heart
Yipee!!!! This is my first post of 2009.....
After series of events that happened since August 2008, I was feeling that I never be able to write again in my life... Unexpected, undesired things kept happening and got completely trapped in my life that i was badly looking for freedom, freedom of thoughts, words and time. I'm glad I managed to get out from the trap and back :D
Lots more to come.... every one shud keeping smiling
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