I've been really busy since past 2 days so cudnt be online, so yest nite when i went online i see a scrap from my sis saying 'di dad wants to talk to u, hez not keeping well' - such a bitch she is to say... i became so impatient reading tht, i cudnt hv my dinner n was waiting so tht i can call them back home... finally i called spoke to every1 n everything was fine... i think tht my parents back home really arnt bothered cuz they never feel the importance or the need to call me n check if i was doing fine or whether i am missing them or not - they hv taken it for granted tht i wud surely mange myself here... may be my mistake bcoz i hv always turned out to be strong headed kinds but nevertheless - i do miss home n mum, dad n sis.
secondly, finally i manage to get a moile sim card so tht i hv total access to people thru phone but when i get back home wid the sim card - the old phone stopped working.. wow (sarcasm) - finally somehow it started working today morning... thank god..
Now I am in school since past 2 days trying to figure out how to work on my courses n get transfer credits so tht i can finish the course by Dec'08.. after running btwn 2 campuses - the international office n my dept i was so pissed cuz my program co-od refused to fuse 2 semsters together..now since it was me on the other side how cud things not happen the way i wanted... so using the so called skill or wht ppl call me a 'chalu girl' - i met my co-od n requested him to combine 2 semester with transfer credits but he refused me flat on my face - now since i knew him for past week i could figure out tht hez a nice family man n really sweet - so hear i go - the conversation
D - Allan u know wht, u will actually hv to work out something for me
A - girlie why dont u understand, i just can go n break the semesters n course patterns for u
D - but i cant take in those chemistry's again n i dont want my course to extend it to close to 2.5 yrs,
A - but u cant hv all things your way, i cant go to retirement widout being on a job
D - i'm sure there will be some way out
A - no there isnt, only way u can finish the 4 sem's are, i think u shud leave the co-op option n hv continuos 4 sem's
D - its was the co-op option i hv taken the course for. allan u dont understand. u know wht i hv planned my marriage for dec 08 n coz of u i will hv to cancel it for the second time n this time if i do so, my man will surely find another girl n u know its not tht difficult to find another girl
A - Aaaaahhhhh, there u go lady, dont worry, to me u dont seem so tht ur man will find another girl cuz u are a smart n beautiful woman unless u want another man (tht was a smart comment) but i am sure u can continue after marriage
D - but i dont want to study after marriage, n my man is not here in toronto so i cant leave him behind n come back to toronto n study... u want to seperate newly wedded couple
A - Awww, you making me feel bad... okies lemme do one thing.. leave ur student no behind i will try to play with the system n see if i can do tht for u... but thts not a promise, the system is a scheduled one, so if it doesnt work u will hv to find another way so tht ur dont hv to cancel ur wedding
D - hey Allan u know wht... u r really sweet n hv been really helpful rght since the day i hv entered the dept... i will keep my fingers crossed tht somehow the system accepts compilation of 2 fall n 2 winter sem's
A - yea will try to do tht
D - okies then, thanks for everything.. see ya on tues when classes start bbye
A - bye
No wonder naa tht there are some girls who call me a bitch or a chalu girl.. hehe haha.... i knew this trick wud work cuz every time i hv entered allan's office he has these 3 photo frames one of his family, one of his wife n one of his daughters... n it actually worked... i know it was such a bad thing to do n i got my thing done using a LIE
But the funniest thing is like, i was single, still single n dont know when am i going to hv tht some1 special n i got my self a man n a wedding planned - just to get some work done - wow... reminds me of niyati during KC days when she always used to ask me how come always ur excuses even if they are not real work n our genuine reasons are rejected.. i know she was quite jealous of me.. which also reminds me of shreya who always said, if u hv a difficult man to deal with call up D n hand over the case to her, i m sure the man will go happy n we will get our work done - n believe me it has happened so many times. i really dont know wht out of the world things i do tht she says tht but i wud only call it a TACT to deal with different people..
But between all this, being in a new country, new people n new environment, something i really need to take serioulsy is getting married... damn yaar!!! every1 in the world is either engagged or getting married n i m here this stupid girl, who doesnt even hv a temporary BF... i m a sad n boring girl.. i really think tht now GOD shud actually send in some character to handle a sample like me...
Aug 30, 2007
Aug 20, 2007
In Toronto
I landed here in Toronto on 15th Aug n reached home at 10 after long 32 hrs flight… not an exciting trip coz I had to take a preponed flight from Mumbai to Delhi at 2 instead of a 3.40 am flight which got delayed so tht I cud take the connecting flight to Toronto frm there… so btwn tht hush hush hardly had enuff time to say last min bye bye to my extended family n frnds who all were present my place. I got a call at 9.30 tht I had to take an earlier flight n since reporting time is 3 hrs we just left home the moment we finished the call… it was good in a sense tht since every1 started moving around fast so nobody thought n had time to cry n be sentimental n make me cry while I was leaving.. finally I boarded the flight with flight delay n stuff.. finally I reach Toronto n see tht outta 3 bags one was missing n then I had to wait n claim for my missing baggage n then finally came outta the airport to see wht Toronto looked like in the night.. within 15 mins frm airport I was to a new home… Didn’t feel great at all.
A new morning a new day in a new land.. just relaxed n chilled n stayed at home.. a big house with hardly ne ppl on roads, only things I could see was cars n theno was nothing to wht I hv seen in traffic in mumbai…the next day we went to square one for a visit which is a shopping zone really close to my place…. Just being inside the mall didn’t give me a feeling tht I was in a new land n in a new culture, why because I guess it’s the Mumbai lifestyle tht I hv been in tht didn’t surprise or excite me… even the shopping wasn’t much different in terms of products n style neither the price (don’t covert rupees to dollars then everything in the world wil b really expensive) – the only diff I found was it was much organized as compared to india. Really didn’t matter being among the phirangs cuz I guess I hv been dealing with quite a lot in past few months while I was working so was really comfortable.
Another day passed by just moving around. Today I went to my school n got myself registered. What a huge n lovely campus, such jovial atmoshphere. Here I could see the diff f being in Canada n being in India. The staff was so cooperative n jovial. Always smling n ready to give answers n help while back home the attitude was who cares, students will find their way out… waiting to start my classes soon..
I really hvnt been getting sleep for quite a few days here.. not tht I m not liking it or I m missing home but don’t know why. I guess I felt I m staying at wrong place wid wrong people… with m uncle n aunt giving advice all the time n being too much conservative n protective… I m seriously hv never been used to my parents being so… I was always left on my own n had a right to make my own choice n options n only was given suggestions.. here I guess they r diff, very diff frm my mum n dad. I really don’t like ppl giving me advice all the time n to be told wht needs to be done… damn yaar I m not a small girl neither do I come from some downtrodden village.. I come frm Mumbai living my life on my terms n making all choices according to my flexibility… I think I wud not be able to survive wid them for many days…
So whts next on cards ??? I hv a busy next week with orientations n rakhi coming up… my cuzin flying down from NYC so will hv a good long labour weekend, will visit niagra n other places in Toronto with them… after tht I will start with my school n hunt for accommodation n try to move out as soon as possible b4 actual winter can set in…. I know tht I hv not come to this place to be with my extended family n try to cook for them all the while n do all household work.. if I wanted to do so wud hv got married n settled easily.. I m here to get a good career for myself, some time n space for myself cuz I had to move on frm the past for new beginning n new goals n new people in life. Not tht I don’t want or need the people I hv left behind but its also important that you move on n ahead in life creating memories which when u look back brings a smile on ur face…. Trust me I had oodles of smile when I think bout the times n my darling loving ppl I hv left behind…. Ppl I really miss – mum for not hving her shouting n cribbing all the time, dad for getting icecreams , Arjun, Nikhil n Aayush for those big warm hugs n many many more.. the list is endless… but there are times you always reconnect…
There lots I want to write but don’t wht all n how to write so will end here… next update will soon go the cyberspace…
I landed here in Toronto on 15th Aug n reached home at 10 after long 32 hrs flight… not an exciting trip coz I had to take a preponed flight from Mumbai to Delhi at 2 instead of a 3.40 am flight which got delayed so tht I cud take the connecting flight to Toronto frm there… so btwn tht hush hush hardly had enuff time to say last min bye bye to my extended family n frnds who all were present my place. I got a call at 9.30 tht I had to take an earlier flight n since reporting time is 3 hrs we just left home the moment we finished the call… it was good in a sense tht since every1 started moving around fast so nobody thought n had time to cry n be sentimental n make me cry while I was leaving.. finally I boarded the flight with flight delay n stuff.. finally I reach Toronto n see tht outta 3 bags one was missing n then I had to wait n claim for my missing baggage n then finally came outta the airport to see wht Toronto looked like in the night.. within 15 mins frm airport I was to a new home… Didn’t feel great at all.
A new morning a new day in a new land.. just relaxed n chilled n stayed at home.. a big house with hardly ne ppl on roads, only things I could see was cars n theno was nothing to wht I hv seen in traffic in mumbai…the next day we went to square one for a visit which is a shopping zone really close to my place…. Just being inside the mall didn’t give me a feeling tht I was in a new land n in a new culture, why because I guess it’s the Mumbai lifestyle tht I hv been in tht didn’t surprise or excite me… even the shopping wasn’t much different in terms of products n style neither the price (don’t covert rupees to dollars then everything in the world wil b really expensive) – the only diff I found was it was much organized as compared to india. Really didn’t matter being among the phirangs cuz I guess I hv been dealing with quite a lot in past few months while I was working so was really comfortable.
Another day passed by just moving around. Today I went to my school n got myself registered. What a huge n lovely campus, such jovial atmoshphere. Here I could see the diff f being in Canada n being in India. The staff was so cooperative n jovial. Always smling n ready to give answers n help while back home the attitude was who cares, students will find their way out… waiting to start my classes soon..
I really hvnt been getting sleep for quite a few days here.. not tht I m not liking it or I m missing home but don’t know why. I guess I felt I m staying at wrong place wid wrong people… with m uncle n aunt giving advice all the time n being too much conservative n protective… I m seriously hv never been used to my parents being so… I was always left on my own n had a right to make my own choice n options n only was given suggestions.. here I guess they r diff, very diff frm my mum n dad. I really don’t like ppl giving me advice all the time n to be told wht needs to be done… damn yaar I m not a small girl neither do I come from some downtrodden village.. I come frm Mumbai living my life on my terms n making all choices according to my flexibility… I think I wud not be able to survive wid them for many days…
So whts next on cards ??? I hv a busy next week with orientations n rakhi coming up… my cuzin flying down from NYC so will hv a good long labour weekend, will visit niagra n other places in Toronto with them… after tht I will start with my school n hunt for accommodation n try to move out as soon as possible b4 actual winter can set in…. I know tht I hv not come to this place to be with my extended family n try to cook for them all the while n do all household work.. if I wanted to do so wud hv got married n settled easily.. I m here to get a good career for myself, some time n space for myself cuz I had to move on frm the past for new beginning n new goals n new people in life. Not tht I don’t want or need the people I hv left behind but its also important that you move on n ahead in life creating memories which when u look back brings a smile on ur face…. Trust me I had oodles of smile when I think bout the times n my darling loving ppl I hv left behind…. Ppl I really miss – mum for not hving her shouting n cribbing all the time, dad for getting icecreams , Arjun, Nikhil n Aayush for those big warm hugs n many many more.. the list is endless… but there are times you always reconnect…
There lots I want to write but don’t wht all n how to write so will end here… next update will soon go the cyberspace…
Aug 6, 2007
What a full-on Family I’m blessed with !!!!
A time I will always love to look back to...
Its been a long time that I actually had a great time socializing with my ‘khandan’. I had to quote tht word bcoz its been really really long that I actually went to a social gathering n interacted with my very big extended family coz of various reasons.
Sat & Sun was actually a kind of a farewell party time for me, and believe me I was so not excited with the fact that people were actually goin to come together. Reason – I am the eldest in the ‘khandan’ n I am perceived to be the kinda perfect girl – “dayi chokri”- LOL ask my mum n frnds.
I thought tht they wud all talk emotional stuff n some kinda rona dhona, but to my surprise, they were totally fun filled evenings. Damn, I actually thought for a while weather they were old or within my age group ( sorry – they refuse to call themselves old – though most of them are between 55 – 70 – ahhh such a young crowd – yea definitely at heart). Bon Voyage cards n gifts n lotta money was given to me.
Okies during those evening there were kinda teams, the older lot which included the dada dadi’s n kaka kaki’s n all, the men, the women and me n a chachu - he doest like me call him kaka coz hez just in his early 30’s but since hez my dad’s cuzin I said I will call him chachu.
Discussion 1 – My accommodation – great ideas came out right from staying in a dorm to a rented apartment to the fact guys n girls sharing an apartment to the extent that chachu said if I land up liking a guy n if i want i can move into a Live in Relationship – n conducted a poll if ne1 had a prob wid it – though there was silence for a couple of seconds n then kaka dadu (my dad’s uncle) gave in his word that I better tell them n then move in rather then moving in widout they being unaware coz definitely no one has time n interested in spying on me… hahahaha – now I see they are good at handling things... no wonder we have managed to have Christian, south Indian and a maharashtrian bahu’s in our family…. I have to appreciate the sporting spirit… even I don’t know if I would want to go in for a Live in Relationship
Discussion 2 – Time span I’m gonna spend in Canada – it was unanimous that they don’t want me back… every1 was like they are not interested in having me back.. wow tht was so mean. My mum said come for 2-3 weeks, visit us n go back…
Discussion 3 – Food – After all we are gujrati’s so food is inseparable. Sometimes I wonder whether they eat to live or live to eat. Hehe… But then since I am a facultative non vegeterain so every1 was like I shud start eating everything, I was amazed tht personally I wud never want to eat beef n pork but chachu is like Greek n Lebanese cuisine is awesome. I was startled listening to it. So he goes like if u r not comfortable just ask some1 to order for u widout asking whts in it n just eat it, u will enjoy it. I shud believe if he sayz tht cuz we both share same kind of taste buds.
Discussion 4 – Social life n circle – The only advice n the only person who spoke on this was chachu n said – if you wanna go n make Indian frnds n be among desi’s thn u r better here. So move out n make frnds from different cultures, it’s a wonderful experience to have them around.
Discussion 5 – Guys n Marriage – interestingly it was the shortest discussion n only the ladies spoke. First my mum said, even here u were all the time wid guys so if I find u doing the same I will not be surprised. The aunties said, find a nice guy whose compatible n preferably an Indian. Secondly they said u don’t even need to come down here to get married, just get married n come here we’ll throw a party n reception for u guys. That was the end of discussion.
Wow, wow, wow.. tht was my feeling at the end of my weekend. Kinda of discussions I never expected them n their outlook to be of this kind n they have always surprised me with their attitude all thru my life. Wonderful feeling cuz u r not going to leave wid lot of unwanted advices n suggestions.
The only funniest thing was every1 though that I was 21, so when chachi said “arre aji toh tu 21 varas ni che, bo time che, maja kari le” n I said “chachi wake up, I m 23” everyone got a reality check tht I am not that young so it makes me feel more than happy that within gujrati’s 23 = 25 n would only think bout getting the girl married, my family (my mum, dad n dadu) happily widout ne inhibitions, second thoughts stood by my call to go out. So I m proud of my a lil diff n weird family..
Love ya all so much.I will really miss you all.. cheers
Its been a long time that I actually had a great time socializing with my ‘khandan’. I had to quote tht word bcoz its been really really long that I actually went to a social gathering n interacted with my very big extended family coz of various reasons.
Sat & Sun was actually a kind of a farewell party time for me, and believe me I was so not excited with the fact that people were actually goin to come together. Reason – I am the eldest in the ‘khandan’ n I am perceived to be the kinda perfect girl – “dayi chokri”- LOL ask my mum n frnds.
I thought tht they wud all talk emotional stuff n some kinda rona dhona, but to my surprise, they were totally fun filled evenings. Damn, I actually thought for a while weather they were old or within my age group ( sorry – they refuse to call themselves old – though most of them are between 55 – 70 – ahhh such a young crowd – yea definitely at heart). Bon Voyage cards n gifts n lotta money was given to me.
Okies during those evening there were kinda teams, the older lot which included the dada dadi’s n kaka kaki’s n all, the men, the women and me n a chachu - he doest like me call him kaka coz hez just in his early 30’s but since hez my dad’s cuzin I said I will call him chachu.
Discussion 1 – My accommodation – great ideas came out right from staying in a dorm to a rented apartment to the fact guys n girls sharing an apartment to the extent that chachu said if I land up liking a guy n if i want i can move into a Live in Relationship – n conducted a poll if ne1 had a prob wid it – though there was silence for a couple of seconds n then kaka dadu (my dad’s uncle) gave in his word that I better tell them n then move in rather then moving in widout they being unaware coz definitely no one has time n interested in spying on me… hahahaha – now I see they are good at handling things... no wonder we have managed to have Christian, south Indian and a maharashtrian bahu’s in our family…. I have to appreciate the sporting spirit… even I don’t know if I would want to go in for a Live in Relationship
Discussion 2 – Time span I’m gonna spend in Canada – it was unanimous that they don’t want me back… every1 was like they are not interested in having me back.. wow tht was so mean. My mum said come for 2-3 weeks, visit us n go back…
Discussion 3 – Food – After all we are gujrati’s so food is inseparable. Sometimes I wonder whether they eat to live or live to eat. Hehe… But then since I am a facultative non vegeterain so every1 was like I shud start eating everything, I was amazed tht personally I wud never want to eat beef n pork but chachu is like Greek n Lebanese cuisine is awesome. I was startled listening to it. So he goes like if u r not comfortable just ask some1 to order for u widout asking whts in it n just eat it, u will enjoy it. I shud believe if he sayz tht cuz we both share same kind of taste buds.
Discussion 4 – Social life n circle – The only advice n the only person who spoke on this was chachu n said – if you wanna go n make Indian frnds n be among desi’s thn u r better here. So move out n make frnds from different cultures, it’s a wonderful experience to have them around.
Discussion 5 – Guys n Marriage – interestingly it was the shortest discussion n only the ladies spoke. First my mum said, even here u were all the time wid guys so if I find u doing the same I will not be surprised. The aunties said, find a nice guy whose compatible n preferably an Indian. Secondly they said u don’t even need to come down here to get married, just get married n come here we’ll throw a party n reception for u guys. That was the end of discussion.
Wow, wow, wow.. tht was my feeling at the end of my weekend. Kinda of discussions I never expected them n their outlook to be of this kind n they have always surprised me with their attitude all thru my life. Wonderful feeling cuz u r not going to leave wid lot of unwanted advices n suggestions.
The only funniest thing was every1 though that I was 21, so when chachi said “arre aji toh tu 21 varas ni che, bo time che, maja kari le” n I said “chachi wake up, I m 23” everyone got a reality check tht I am not that young so it makes me feel more than happy that within gujrati’s 23 = 25 n would only think bout getting the girl married, my family (my mum, dad n dadu) happily widout ne inhibitions, second thoughts stood by my call to go out. So I m proud of my a lil diff n weird family..
Love ya all so much.I will really miss you all.. cheers
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